It is what it is.

I hear the phrase"It is what it is" often. My brother with a special needs child uses it. I think people who are in a place that they cannot change, or feel they cannot change, use it. 

Lately, I have been using it. There are some things in life that just are. Obligations. Health. Relationships. 

 I find my self becoming more cynical as I age. 

Cynical, according to Webster's is:

Believing that people are motivated by self-interest; distrustful of human sincerity or integrity.
Doubtful as to whether something will happen or is worthwhile. 

  Am I cynical? More and more so.

 I am particularly distrustful of the government and their motives. 

I deal with the public every day. Many of our customers are wonderful, but there is always that group of self involved people that you have to deal with.

Do I have doubts about the whether something worthwhile is going to happen? Absolutely. I am so disappointed in our election season. Is there a solution? No. It is what it is. 

 Do the banks disappoint? It is what it is. 

 Do I have obligations in my family, my job, and my life? It is what it is. 

 Can I change the aging process? Can I change the health of my friends and family? Can I change anything but my attitude. It is what it is. 

 That seems like a flat or harsh attitude to some, but I believe it is just facing reality. I can moan, groan, bitch, and complain, or I can laugh and accept, but the situations remain the same. It is what it is.

 I understand that I cannot change the way my  family and my friends are. I can change my response to them. In a lot of cases, I just try to love and accept them and know that it is what it is. 

Do I believe change is coming? Yes. Do I believe it is positive and for the greater good? Not so much.
 Everyday I look for answers. Everyday I work for the positive attitude. 

 At what point is acceptance the answer? Do you just become more and more cynical and give up? 

Do you fight the good fight and know that often it is an exercise in futility?

                                      Mark and Lauren


Or, do you just understand that "It is what it is." and move on to the next thing.