Bitch?

What constitutes a "bitch"? I have had this name applied to me more than once, just for the act of asking questions and expecting answers. Now, I am the first to state that patience is not my strong suit. My husband, kindly calls me the "squeaky wheel". I have been dealing with a refinance for about a month now. I have faxed the same paperwork three times to two different people. I suggested that they attempt communicating with each other and the unspoken attitude screamed the b word at me! In spite of that, I keep asking them what they are doing and how they have come to these conclusions. It seems all will be done this week. Does expecting competency make you a b?
 I have been a female "boss" for many years. The b word has been thrown at me many times over the years. Again, I believe, it is for expecting competency from people .
 I think the other reason the b word is used to describe people is their willingness to talk  about "the elephant in the room". I hate unspoken problems. I think everything has some sort of solution if it is looked at. If you pretend it is not happening or do not admit the existence of the situation, then how can you fix it? or find someone to help?
 Is it control? Do you call someone a b when they are in control and you aren't?
 Well, in my life, right now, I feel it is the season of the witch. (B!!!!!)